It’s Slice of Life Tuesday! Thank you to the team of writers at Two Writing Teachers for this wonderful writing community. A place for us to grow together as writers.
Mornings are hard. Monday mornings are even harder. If you’ve ever read any of my posts about my daughter and mornings, you may have had a tiny glimpse our “typical” mornings. And that’s just what yesterday morning was.
It actually started out calmly. Emma’s music came on at 6:40am. I went in, snuggled her, and gave her a kiss on the cheek saying “good morning Sweet Pea.” She even hugged me and smiled. It was great.
And then I said…”time to get dressed!” And that’s where it took a turn for the worst. Apparently, the clothes she picked out the night before she didn’t want to wear any longer. Then, her newly reorganized drawers were too overwhelming. She started to growl, then yell. Emma struggles with regulating her emotions. All part of her ADHD. When something doesn’t go the way she envisions it, she gets frustrated. The frustration turns to anger, and then she erupts. Once she gets herself calm again, she feels horrible and cries. It’s a vicious cycle that I truly try to avoid. But, it’s not always possible and is often unpredictable.
Anyway, when I got to work, I was talking with one of my friends about the morning disaster and she gave me a brilliant suggestion. She suggested that I get some sort of organizer (kind of like the shoe organizer that hangs on a door with pockets) and have Emma pick out 6 outfits for the whole week. This way each morning she has more than just the one choice, but not the entire wardrobe. I stood there listening to her idea thinking “geez, this is brilliant. She’s a genius. Such a great idea. Can’t wait to try this.”
Then, I told two different friends about the idea and that I was going to skip the gym and go find this type of organizer thingy right after work. They suggested that I take Emma with me so she can help pick out the organizer. Again, brilliant. Two more geniuses. Taking her with me will allow her feel some ownership and hopefully that will help even more (and I could go to the gym first).
So, I picked Emma up from her after school care after I went to the gym. We went to The Container Store – yeah, I wanted that whole store! We walked around and talked through various storage options. We found these hanging compartments that would go into her closet and she agreed that these were the best choice because they didn’t take up space in her room. (Her disaster of a room is a whole post in itself!) We set it up the second we got home and she started to pick out her 5 outfits. She was thoughtful and excited about this whole process. She was also able to pick out 5 outfits in under 5 minutes – Hmmm very interesting!
The true test was this morning. She woke up smiling. I said to her calmly “time to pick out your outfit.” She was dressed before me – no growling or yelling. There may have been some smack talking though! A million times better than yesterday.
It truly does take a village sometimes. In this case, we had help from the teacher family village!